Following the success of #BodyConfidenceWeek and #SexWeek on the blog, I figured it was time the 30 Dates Daters turned their pens to the topic of Love! Kicking things off is Mister Mischief
Miss Twenty-Nine xxx
What is Love?
If you had asked me this 2 or 3 months ago, I would have given my usual answer: I don’t really know what love is. I know what it’s like to love a family member, a friend, but not someone outside those two definitions of relationships.
What is Love?
Lust I know
Agape* I understand
Familial love I have and appreciate
The love of a girl, I’ve only recently come close to
knowing but even that I don’t know
to be the real thing.
The girl, whom I shall call Moy Drogoy (It’s Russian)
has captivated my heart. I am enamoured.
The short time we had during her holiday in the UK
is a memory I shall treasure for ever.
If you read on you will see that
I have chosen a left brained approach.
Probably because I am male, definitely because
I am a programmer and have a habit of taking
the formulaic approach. A path well trodden etc.
It’s a logical sequence for me, which given a set of
parameters and constants will always result
in the same outcome
Love: I think it is the enactment of,
but not limited to, the following assertions
– I am insatiably physically attracted to you
– I have a strong desire to be around you
– I am glad hearted at the thought of you
– I will put myself in harm’s way for your safety
– I will make many a sacrifice of my life for you
– I will put up with your quirks and foibles and restrain my own
– I will trust you with my darkest secrets
– I will remain faithful to you until my last breath
– The words “I love you” from me to you are an undying pledge
For true love I would expect that these
assertions would be mutual verities and reciprocated.
How long would it take for these assertions to be true
for both parties?
Will they remain true always?
A lack of first hand experience denies me the answers.
However, I believe all of the above is required. As well as the
time taken to build trust and share those feelings.
(There is no such thing as love at first sight)
Even in the brief time we corresponded before her holiday,
I feel that, for Moy Drogoy, I can easily make 6 of
the assertions I stated above. She confesses 3 of them
apply to her with respect to me.
Was it not for being separated by a great
distance I would pursue her until
we both felt all the assertions applied.
At the very least I am happy for the time we had.
(That said, I’ll probably do all that I can to see her again)
Anyone can say the words I love you
but to have them whispered in earnest
not only for a brief moment of passion,
nor as fleeting sentiment,
or as a tool to beguile …
That is the ideal.
(Isn’t that what love is? Someone please shine a light
on the darkness of my ignorance
lest I continue, blissfully unaware)
How will I know when I’m in Love?
I guess it will start with a girl,
someone whose lust for me is equal to my lust for her
and she will have a carefree and playful nature.
Then hopefully, over time, my left brain list of what love should be will be satisfied, then this girl and I will live content and happy till death us do part.
Privyet, LS (just in case she reads this)
*Agape (Greek) refers to Unconditional Love