The Ugly Truth (Joe Blogs via Guardian Soulmates)

Thanks to the 30 Dates blog, I now also edit the Guardian Soulmates dating blog, which is proving a lot of fun!  In recent weeks I’ve met up with Gina Yashere, and B*witched, for dating related interviews, and also ran a blind date at the Mall Tavern.  I’ve also been able to showcase the work of other dating writers, including Northstar, the lovely Laurie from MyPOTL and The Girl with the Spotty Umbrella.

One of the best pieces I’ve had the privilege of editing so far was by ‘Joe Blogs’ – who very candidly explained why men lead women on, and how to spot some of the signs …

Miss Twenty-Nine xxx

The Ugly Truth – How To Tell When A Guy Just Isn’t That Into You …

Ok, this is a little awkward for me. It actually pains me to admit why I feel qualified to write about this. You see, I have been “that guy”, leading women along for whatever selfish reason or motive I had at that particular time. Furthermore, I’m in the minority of guys that will actually admit it – not just to others, but to themselves as well.

We’re not all calculating, manipulative scumbags, but men often subconsciously lead women on. And often, also subconsciously, women let it happen, over and over again, in the hope that the man in question may actually like them.

Recently on 30 Dates, Miss Twenty-Nine described a now-platonic friendship with a former Tinder interest, who revealed to her upon finally meeting as friends that he saw the app as little more than a game. He told her that he never really thought of the person he was chatting to.

I’m a little embarrassed to admit it, but that Tinder user was in fact me. And she was right about everything she said. At that time, I was chatting to all sorts of girls and a few caught my eye, for differing reasons. But the common denominator was that I enjoyed the attention from all of them.

Men chatting to women on a dating app for the sheer fun of it is just one example of the ways a guy can lead a lady on. We enjoy the challenge, the chase – and we also enjoy the attention. Guys can be just as insecure as women can, and knowing there’s a woman interested in you – let alone a number of them – is a great ego boost.

However, there is a caveat to this somewhat foreboding tale…. READ THE REST OF JOE’S POST HERE!

 

 

PS – I must say … this model bears an uncanny resemblance to the real Henley Boy!!! 🙂